finley1991
02-01-2008, 03:59 PM
Here's my current dilemma... I've written about this consultant before.
I have a consultant who each year tells me she wants to promote to director, earn sometime, etc. One year she was within $700 on DECEMBER 1st of earning level one and said, "I'm okay with where I'm at... I'm not going to try for it." Then all of the following year complained at how close she had been to earning it. Each year she does nothing different for her biz.
So again, this year at our spring kick-off it was all, "I'M WALKING AT NC!" I told her I would commit to working with her. The first thing I asked her to do was to listen to the Duska Mills recording and e-mail me her thoughts on it. This is what she wrote:
Colleen, Just finished listening to Duska Mills audio. She makes some
excellent points and gives great practical advise (which I will incorporate
in my shows). The thing that really struck me was that you have to have NO DOUBT. In yourself, in your ability to reach the goal, etc. I am not happy to say this but I do have a lot of doubts about myself and my ability to commit myself to the goal of directorship. I have a bad attitude and know I am the only one who can get myself out of it and I don't know what I'm waiting for. At prayer group recently we heard that even if you don't feel like it-pray anyway. I know this is true of all things in life. Doing all
the things you have suggested helps a lot because they are constructive
steps to take. I know once my schedule is fuller the excitement will come
back and maybe then I can set that goal and make the commitment to promote to director but I don't feel capable of it right now.
So what do I do? Honestly, I'm finding myself "exhausted" building her up and "believing" in her. She tells me she needs that from me to make her feel good and want to work. She has openly admitted that she pulls the "poor me" card because it ALWAYS works for her. But frankly, I'm not sure I have it in me for another year!
With that, I just signed a new girl. She's been in direct sales before and really wants to promote. She was a manager in her former biz several years ago so pretty much knows the drill. I'm thinking once this new girl promotes or at least starts building a team of her own, this consultant will see and maybe get her hiney moving. (She can't stand not being #1.)
Any words of wisdom? I feel like I can't just give up but I find I'm exhausted from it. I'd rather put that energy elsewhere into my biz.
I have a consultant who each year tells me she wants to promote to director, earn sometime, etc. One year she was within $700 on DECEMBER 1st of earning level one and said, "I'm okay with where I'm at... I'm not going to try for it." Then all of the following year complained at how close she had been to earning it. Each year she does nothing different for her biz.
So again, this year at our spring kick-off it was all, "I'M WALKING AT NC!" I told her I would commit to working with her. The first thing I asked her to do was to listen to the Duska Mills recording and e-mail me her thoughts on it. This is what she wrote:
Colleen, Just finished listening to Duska Mills audio. She makes some
excellent points and gives great practical advise (which I will incorporate
in my shows). The thing that really struck me was that you have to have NO DOUBT. In yourself, in your ability to reach the goal, etc. I am not happy to say this but I do have a lot of doubts about myself and my ability to commit myself to the goal of directorship. I have a bad attitude and know I am the only one who can get myself out of it and I don't know what I'm waiting for. At prayer group recently we heard that even if you don't feel like it-pray anyway. I know this is true of all things in life. Doing all
the things you have suggested helps a lot because they are constructive
steps to take. I know once my schedule is fuller the excitement will come
back and maybe then I can set that goal and make the commitment to promote to director but I don't feel capable of it right now.
So what do I do? Honestly, I'm finding myself "exhausted" building her up and "believing" in her. She tells me she needs that from me to make her feel good and want to work. She has openly admitted that she pulls the "poor me" card because it ALWAYS works for her. But frankly, I'm not sure I have it in me for another year!
With that, I just signed a new girl. She's been in direct sales before and really wants to promote. She was a manager in her former biz several years ago so pretty much knows the drill. I'm thinking once this new girl promotes or at least starts building a team of her own, this consultant will see and maybe get her hiney moving. (She can't stand not being #1.)
Any words of wisdom? I feel like I can't just give up but I find I'm exhausted from it. I'd rather put that energy elsewhere into my biz.